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my father has had the vasectomy as well as i would similar to some-more young kids the nhs will not do the annulment what should i do
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my father has had the vasectomy as well as i would similar to some-more young kids the nhs will not do the annulment what should i do
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adopt! so many children out there with no homes!
respect your husbands decision.
Deal with it.
try another hospital to do the reversal. either that or find a new guy cause your current one can’t have kids anymore.
Find a doctor that will do the reversal or adopt.
talk to him about it.
You can either pay for the reversal yourself, or you can forget more children.
Why did he have it if you weren’t sure? Didn’t you discuss it first? Seems to me that by having the procedure, he was CLEARLY saying he wanted no more kids.
He doesnt want kids, it should be a joint descion!
Was it a mutual decision to get the procedure done in the first place? The possibility of more children should have been discussed before the vasectomy. I dont blame the guy. I would not get a reversal either. He made peace that he would not have any more kids. Not fair of you to go changing his mind now.
Did you not discuss having kids before he got his vasectomy?
Hunny, adoption is a great thing, but you may have problems if your husband doesn’t want more children.
adopt, many children need good parents
Well has he changed his mind about it? If he has then I’m sure you can find someone to do a reversal, and if he hasn’t changed his mind, then you two probably need to get on the same page with things. If he doesn’t want the same things you do then it probably won’t ever work. Good luck
Have you considered assissted conception, where they can withdraw the sperm surgically.
Or what about IVF.
Just some ideas.
well i guess you can talk to him about artificial insemination
You have deeper problems than having more children if your husband had a vasectomy without discussing it with you. Try counseling before you do anything else.
I would adopt and also keep in mind that there are a lot of children right here on the home front who need love from caring people looking to give it.
when i had mine it was a joint desision beteween both me and my wife.did you not have a discussion with him before he had it done.our doctor asked me if we were really sure it’s what we wanted.if you did you can’t just change your mind.how would you feel if you had your tubes ties and he wanted kids.sorry to be harsh but that’s life
Adopt,foster or just live with it,,,
This is a serious issue.
I would ask you to consider going to counseling so you can work this out.
Hey – I have a girly man for ya.
if its only you who wants more children than you should do NOTHING a child nedd to be wanted buy BOTH husband and wife
Nothing you can do…really..did he go behind your back to do it? I’m assuming you knew about it.Don’t complain now.He can get it reversed but there’s no guarantees it will work.At this point if he refuse to it ..respect his decision. Same way we as females expect to be respected by males. You can adopt or even be a foster parent. There are many kids you can share your love with.
Good luck!
It depends. If he did without you knowing and talking to you about then I would either get counselling or leave because he should have told you. But if you knew and you both set down and talked about it then you really can’t get mad all you can do is accepted it and if you really want more children then adoption is always an option. They are plenty of children who need mommy’s and daddy’s. I wish you the best.
go private.good luck
adopt – if you can’t handle that maybe what you are looking for is pregnancy not children
if you both dont wat kids then its a recipe for disaster..try not to be selish
The alternate is TESE (see the link below). It has a higher success rate than vasectomy. A vasectomy has a success rate of about only 25-30%.
Consider the ethics of the situation. Your husband made a choice. The consequence of that choice is not to have more children. How can you teach your chidlren about actions and consequences when you are not facing them yourself? That is very bad parenting. Think about it.
Honey, I have a lot of experience in the medical field. Vasectomy reversal is pretty much a waste of money. Success rates are very low. The doctors know this. They are in the business of selling false hope.