Advice needed on the subject of vasectomy reversal.?
Tags:birth experience, bitter feelings, son a 2, vasectomy, vasectomy reversal,
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My father had a vasectomy roughly rught away after a youngest kid was born. (I have an eleven year aged son, a 2 year aged daughter as well as an 8 month aged daughter).
I had a hideous bieing born knowledge with her, as well as indispensable twenty-two stitches from ripping (no time for epidural or episiotomy, so you felt it ALL).
He asked me for my submit upon a "V" whilst you was still unequivocally most in my postpartum stage. When a fume eventually cleared, a procession had been done. We right away both bewail it.
He is formulation to go for a vasectomy reversal, as well as from what you have been told since it has been reduction than a year a chances of source have been utterly high.
So, my subject is twofold.
Has any one had success ttc after vas-reversal?
And, how do you keep from carrying sour feelings towards him if you have been unsuccessful? After years of IUI’s as well as miscarriages, you only feel strongly about wanting 1 more, as well as you feel he unequivocally should have since me, as well as him, time to reanimate from a final smoothness prior to a vasectomy.
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well i can only answer the last part because i have not gone through this yet but i think he did it out of love and fear it probably hurt him a lot to see what you went through i had a hard time with our first and my husband and i could not even talk about our delivery with out chocking up and we waited 4 years till our next and were both scared so i am sure it was done with the idea that he never wanted to see you in that kind of pain again and because he was so powerless to stop it from happening to you the first time in a moment of panic and love he brought up the one way he knew he could insure it was never going to happen again so if anything just try to understand his thinking and know what ever is ment to be will happen! good luck!
I know someone who had vas reversal and it was not successful. I don’t know how long they waited to have it, but they only wanted two children, had the vasectomy, then one of their children died tragically. It may have been awhile before they did the reversal surgery.
You may feel your husband asked you at a vulnerable time, but he did discuss it with you and you agreed. If he, too, regrets it, there’s no reason to have bitter feelings toward him. He didn’t do this to hurt you–he probably did it to save you from the kind of pain you went through the last birth.
My advice is that it sounds like you have three healthy children. Thank God for them and focus your love and attention on them. Sometimes, when God closes a door, he opens a window.
Peace.
We had a vasectomy when our son was 6 wks old exactly. I knew it wasn’t what I really wanted but didn’t voice my objections. My husband suffered pvps (post vasectomy pain syndrome) plus we both regretted our hasty decision so only 7 months later, we reversed with a very highly skilled reversal micro surgeon. Return of sperm for a vasectomy that is reversed within 3 years is 97% and pregnancy rates are around 65%. The longer you wait, the less likely reversal will work. We NFP for one year after the reversal, then ttc’ed for 2 months and we are now 16 weeks pg, so reversals DO WORK! Make sure you research, join some reversal support groups, and ask alot of questions.
As far as resenting your husband’s vasectomy decision, you were there too, so like me, you must forgive him and yourself. Then move forward with reversal; it alone, whether it works or not, will help to heal these old wounds. As dark as vasectomy has come to seem to you, reversal will be lightness and fill you with hope.